A child’s bedroom is an extension of their body boundary.

That space should be protected.

My children know this and we talk about it often.

At The Billionaire Bubble – I do not allow many into my space.

Besides repair workers – I’ve had 2 non-family guests. Both were for doing hair service for Queen Glory.

They are allowed to the open main area.

Not beyond.

I recently had a neighbor over to braid Queen Glory’s hair.

Some days prior Queen Glory told our neighbor that she should come to her room to play with her cooking stuff. I let Glory share in excitement.

When I got Queen Glory alone I told her that she can bring the food to the family room to play with our neighbor, but not to her bedroom.

That is her personal space.

So when the neighbor finished Queen Glory’s hair – I had Glory to bring down some of her food.

They had a sweet time.

Some days later I was having 1:1 tea with this neighbor in The Creation Cave. We were having such a rich heart to heart, I mean just really yappin it up about all the things. I told her what I told my daughter and how even though I “trust” her – that if my kids ever told me anything regarding her that made them uncomfortable while around them… I would come to her.

I wasn’t trying to scare her or anything. I was just talking about my standard operating procedures. Better to speak on it upfront, than for them to be unaware.

At the end of the day, I’m responsible for those under my mantle of protection before any kind of friendship (or whatever non-family relational label).

My children know this. I may not “like” having to do it – but because of my commitment to them I will embrace the discomfort and even “loss” of a connection.

I’ve had to have some direct communications with people I deeply love on behalf of my children and put myself in a position of being despised. I’ve not been accusatory – but factual. and I’ve seen how ppl will deflect to defend their view instead of seeking to understand the childs. I just observe and stay on my mission to deliver the message with love and assertiveness. I’ll do it again and again and again.

I know I’ve been “successful” when I deliver the message and then report back to my child that I did it and give them an update.

In my experience, most of my connections are temporary – for a season – not deep life long lifers. I do not say this with sadness, just data.

Do you have standard operating procedures for your dwelling space and loved ones?

With Love,