I’ve come to terms with the fact that:

I do not like small talk.

I don’t like these questions from ppl I don’t know:

• How are you?
• What’s new?

This is not even on some uppity ish. I just don’t have a clear answer.

Furthermore…most don’t care for real for the true response…just ready for the cookie cutter answer and preparing to share their ish.

I want to be around ppl to do the work or activity at hand…then dip.

In and out.

We not doing coffee, lunches, dinner – none of that.

Unless, there is an actual purpose.

Yes, I may miss out on beautiful connection cause of this…wompity womp womp.

I’m not here for that.

Most that I connect with end up being zapped by me and dip. Not many can handle the weight of my  openness without being like….gotta goooo. Some can and for that I’m thankful.

If I have an established authentic heart to heart connection…then yea we can chat…otherwise…nah.

I will be friendly, but it aint nothing more than that.

If an activity starts at 1:30…I’m walking in at 1:29.

If it ends at 2:30…I’m walking out by 2:35.

And even that is lingering.

I’ve had ppl be like let’s get coffee and never do it.

I’ve had ppl tell me to call them…then I do and they are like ” Wow you actually called me”….I’m like we discussed this…what I miss.

One time I was being helped by an associate at ACE Hardware…we got to talking about grills…I shared that I had a grill at my dwelling space and he wanted to know if my loved one liked it…he was interested in getting that grill…I told him I would let him know. I got back to my dwelling spot and called that Ace store about 30 mins from returning and asked for that associate and told him about what my loved one liked about the grill. He seemed surprised that I called lol. Were we just talking to talk?

Many just be saying stuff to say stuff…not because of a true authentic connection.

What are your thoughts on “small talk”? Share below.

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