Recently, I was receiving support and love from my Facebook fam. I appreciated their care, but they kept leaving the emoji – I hate!

The Care Emoji

So when they put that on my posts I was like:

Nooooooooooooooooooo!

I wanted to DM all of them that had recently left a care emoji and ask that they pick a different emoji selection. Instead I posted this very blog post to FB as a heart to heart PSA, they received it well. I hope you do too!

So what emoji would I prefer when I’m sharing times that I’ve gone through the fire?!?

I’d prefer a laugh emoji because I am so far removed from many of my painful experiences – that they have become hilarious.

Get this!… after reading my FB post about despising The Care Emoji, one of my FB fam bammerz went to one of my previous “painful post” and switched to a laugh emoji!?! It made me laugh soo hard!

You see my writing about verbal abuse and then under it a laughing emoji. To outsiders, it may have seemed cruel, but to me I was overflowing with chuckles!!! It’s better than “white knuckling” it through life, right?!? We gotta release the cray!

I’ve cried my eyes out and felt deeply, given my pain over to God (continuously), and the wild things that have happened can now be shared with laughter. It’s like wild ish happened and the residue is hilarious.

Those care emojis give off “poor baby” signals – when I prefer:

“Oh, you overcame!” signals.

I know they and you mean well – but now that we’re connecting on my blog – I feel you might as well know how I truly feel.

Much of the “cray” I have experienced has been of my own “Red flag circus riding loving self” choosing! I may reference another’s behavior as unacceptable (it is), but I cannot do that without acknowledging that I signed myself up to receive it repeatedly. I have often seen the signs of “ehhh, this is off” and still said I need about 100 experiences to confirm it.

I’ve seen the caution tape and thought hmm – surely this was mis-tagged. I’d remove the tape my own self and still be like “God send me a sign” – like 8 rolls of caution tape wasn’t sufficient.

It was like hmm this seems like abuse…..let’s be ABsolutely sure by seeing if they put more to USE. & did.

That’s not on them. That’s on me.

I recently saw a post where a woman shared that her dad told her:

“If you’re gonna be stupid – you gotta be strong”

That resonated with me, perhaps it will with you.

The quote is in reference to romantic relationships, but it carries over into life in general. Let’s ask God for wisdom and the ability to apply it as we live our life. In doing this, we can spend less time in recovery from foolery.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5

I find it better to take accountability and laugh at the absurdity of my hard lessons – than to receive a “pity” care emoji as if I had no role to play.

Note: I’m thankful for the acknowledgment of others “seeing me” even if it came/comes through the care emoji. It’s better than the non-engagement cricket silence – which I know well. I’m not rejecting your care, but guiding you towards how I best receive it.

Empowered to Laugh,